Dr. Dookey is a well-known therapist specializing in the particular needs of motorcyclists under psychological duress. Following many years of lucrative private practice, he has decided to provide counseling at no charge to riders in need. The opinions expressed on this page only are those of Dr. Dookey, and not necessarily those of the staff of Rocky Mountain Motorcycle Tours LLC.
Dear Dr. D: Ever since I was a teenager, all I've cared about is girls and motorcycles. Now that I'm middle-aged, it's pretty much motorcycles. My wife of 25 years keeps on me to be "more ambitious" and "live up to my full potential" - whatever that means. I don't mind putting in my time in the salt mines, but when that whistle blows, all I wanna do is ride! Is there something wrong with me? -Sweating in the salt mines
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Dear Sweating: In the end, you will either die miserable after a life of quiet desperation or accede to your true values (not the hardware store chain.) Most men, it's been noted, cop out to the former course. If you would have peace and happiness, choose the latter, and apologize to no one for doing so - especially yourself. Recognize, respect and celebrate your values, and be thankful for every opportunity to live your life in a way that you value. As long as you're not doing anyone any harm, how much more "ambitious" can you be? This is your "full potential": to live in full harmony with your values and happily bring as many people along on your trip as you can. And by all means, find a way out of the salt mines. Ride, bro. Ride.
-Dr. D
Dr. Dookey, Motorcycle Therapist offers advice and insights to motorcyclists suffering in their relationships with their machines, their spouses and family members, and the world in general. You may solicit Dr. Dookey's help with your own conundrum by using the "contact Dr. Dookey" button on this page. Due to space and time constraints, Dr. Dookey cannot respond to every request. Anonymity is guaranteed.
